Why I’m Calling BS on “Your Past Doesn’t Define Your Future”

Mallory Musante :: Why I'm Calling BS on "Your Past Doesn't Define Your Future"

Chances are you've heard the saying "your past doesn't define your future." I get why people say that and why it might be comforting but I'm calling bullsh*t. I mean, who would we be if it weren't for our experiences in life? These experiences are what shape us as people. They share our thoughts, feelings, and perceptions of the world. But it's all in how you deal with these situations that defines your future. Are you going to become bitter and cynical or are you going to use it to become a better person? 

I could have just curled up into a ball after leaving my abusive relationship. I could have vowed to never date again so I would never be hurt again. I could have kept quiet about it and never spoken a word because most people who know him wouldn't believe me. But what kind of life would that have been? 

Sometimes we need something to come along and shake us awake. Call it fate, God, the Universe.. whatever you want but it's all about how we deal with these situations. How we choose to respond and get back up when life throws us that curveball. And this right here is why I'm calling bullshit on "Your past doesn't define your future." 

Mindset Challenge: To help shift your mindset to a positive one during difficult times, instead of saying "Why me?' when something happens, try to ask "What is this here to teach me?" or try to feel gratitude for the situation instead. This will not only help shift your mindset from negative to positive but it also helps develop your reflection skills. Leave a comment below to let me know if you've tried this trick and how it has worked for you! 

Not all storms come to disrupt your life. Some come to clear your path.